Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix | Tasha Eurich | TEDxMileHigh
Self-awareness has countless proven benefits — stronger relationships, higher performance, more effective leadership. Sounds pretty great, right? Here’s the bad news: 95% of people think that they’re self-aware, but only 10-15% actually are! Luckily, Tasha Eurich has a simple solution that will instantly improve your self-awareness. As a third-generation entrepreneur, Dr. Tasha Eurich was born with a passion for business, pairing her scientific savvy in human behavior with a practical approach to solving business challenges. As an organizational psychologist, she’s helped thousands of leaders improve their effectiveness, from Fortune 500 executives to early-stage entrepreneurs. Her new book, Insight, reveals the findings of her three-year research program on self-awareness, which she calls the meta-skill of the 21st century. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
Basically it says to focus on solution instead of problems
@Rone Dennis 9
Thanks for saving my 17 minutes
Problems are means to be solved
I still don’t understand how can we have better understanding of ourselves by focusing on the solutions and the what.
Her anecdote about her book in the end shows how humble and resilient of a person she is. Hats off to her. She seems like a genuinely fun and caring person.
I don’t agree with that . Not part of my belief system therefore I dissolve any almic contracts attempts created by that being . Pay attention to the realities she tried to Programm into us . We are love. However you are free to believe in whatever you feel is the truth . I’m just expressing my opinion based on your public comment . Vibrating in the FRECUENCY of love. Chris
I’ve reflected on myself since I was about 9 years, literally meditating on why I feel or do what I do and it has allowed me happiness even with my flaws, and I have many. asking outside sources for their opinion on someone, remember 80% don’t even know themselves. Your best chance for opinion would be a husband of many years, he intimately knows your awareness, or a best friend who is also aware. ❤️ nice lecture
Amazing talk. I have to stop victimizing myself and look for solutions instead to fix it.
Many of us are guilty of that my friend. It’s easy to get caught up in the flow of negativity that surrounds us. But we must change our thoughts to change our life. And we must intentionally make positive thoughts a habit. I’ve been trying a method where every negative thought I have, I combat with a positive one right after. And now I’ve been able to stop the negativity mid-thought, and replace it with the good, positive one instead. It’s incredible how much it has helped. I wish you an abundance of love and blessings!
This comment is gold.
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What an amazing talk! Thank you, Tasha Eurich, for giving me much more insight into self-awareness. I am one of the 95% and 80% most of the time. Sometimes it takes a very hard reality check to “come back to/in yourself” so to speak – realising that I wasn’t as self-aware as I thought. Anyway, your “one simple fix” really helps. I am experiencing it personally on different levels at the moment. So, well done! And ask me to write an “Amazon review” on this talk…you will smile and smile and smile.
The essence is “Instead of stuck on problems,focus on finding solutions.”
Great and very useful speech. Thank you for sharing your ideas and work.
What she failed at trying to convey, is that essence…
Solutions to what?
One of the best books I’ve read so far. Thanks Tasha for your authenticity and great work!🙏🏼
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” 👌🏼
@Shqiponja – MTI a lie? How do come to that conclusion?
Screen shot this comment. It’s everything🤍
@Daniel Moore . Very true, we program ourselves subconsciously and assume we have free will, and as a result we only see what we program ourselves to see. The American psychologist/philosopher William James was brilliant.
Self-aware people are able to take their awareness and pull it out from what they are thinking and feeling. Just by looking at those things spinning around and around without judging them or changing them at all, self-aware people can free themselves.
I’ve heard this so many times that it sounds cringe now
This made me realize I spend way too much time wondering why when there is actually no solution in that. Huh. I definitely going to move forward asking what questions instead. This was incredibly eye opening. Thank you so much!
So powerful, the key is to come to the realization that we are really disappointed about the way our lives have turned out , don’t dwell on that, re-think about focusing on the real way you want to live and focus on the outcome you really desired !!!
Her advice, to me, is more about changing focus and perspective. In “Deep work”, Cal Newport states an excellent idea that our minds actually turn more toward negative things, which leads us to depression. Therefore, instead of spending hours on what we call “introspection”, it’s more about what we can learn from this experience, or remind ourselves of what are the important values in our lives.
Anw, one of the best Ted talks I’ve seen. Excellent delivery, and well-put honest emotion makes her message somehow more touching and memorable.
I understand that introspection and asking yourself “why?” can lead to overthinking and victimization but that is why it is important to not stay in this phase for a long period of time. When I became aware of my toxic behaviors, one of my first questions was why. Why do I act this way when this happens, why am I so judgmental or why do I get defensive etc. I believe that this was the foundation that I needed to figure out what events happened in my life that lead me to where I was. If when I discovered that I couldn’t tell myself that I was beautiful and then I said “what can I do to make myself feel beautiful?”, “oh I’ll just do some self care and pluck my eyebrows or paint my toenails”. It’s more like a band-aid instead of getting to what’s really under the surface. I believe the next phase is “what”, what can I do to make this situation better? was what I did the right thing to do? what do I want out of life? what are my boundaries? BUT I can understand if an individual doesn’t have any baggage like I do and if they don’t need to “get to the surface”, then they most likely can skip the “why” and go straight to the “what”. Everyone’s situation is different.
I just posted a comment on how she can’t speak for everyone, like me on my WHYS my why’s entail what’s in them as well.. for example “why do i feel this way” entails what could be causing me to feel this way. I don’t think she’s the best teacher imo. Maybe not her fault but just doesn’t convey well.
@times N Yes, I think that she is trying to categorize everyone in the same bin and that’s unrealistic. I do know that her talk will help people on their own journey though, just not ours 😉
“when you focus on problems, you’ll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you’ll have more opportunities.”
We become what we focus on – Tony Robbins
Yes big usefull
A problem shared is a problem…
doubled, thanks “friend”
I still think asking “why” do I feel like this, why was I triggered, why do I behave this way, has led to some of the most groundbreaking self discovery for me. And I believe she’s right, that all we can ever really do is come up with a story to explain why, but those stories have helped me. We are the stories we tell ourselves! But then to not get stuck on why, and move on to “what can I do now that I know this” is what I’m taking from her speech. Loved this, thank you!
This is literally the best ted video I’ve ever seen in my whole life. The way she suggests makes us focus on the present moment. Why-question makes us see the past. The abyss. Where we can’t take clear reasons out from the insanely complicated reality. And drag down us to a number of wrong answers.
Let’s just stop it and start to live the present.
Ironically enough, this is what the scriptures say!! Sheesh!
First of all, Thank you Tasha Eurich if you read this or not. You helped me state some things about me.
Secondly, I realized I was lately thinking about why-side more often as I learn psychology. But when it comes to learning my religion’s beliefs it goes to what-side more often. I wondered what is the reason behind? Because I see this more often in some people around me too. The more and true implementation of religion, the more self-awareness, relaxed, happy, high-quality, and stress-free life.
The answer I have found, is pretty simple, if you are smart enough to understand Tasha’s why-what advice. Think about why only humans has this capability to search and learn this much unlike any other living kind. We have extraordinary capabilities given by a creator for nothing? What is the purpose with all these perfect designs in human body and the universe as a home to human kind. The position of human in the universe. And if we are gifted from a creator, it means creator knows us better than us, and loves us. If so, listening the Creator’s advices will definitely lead us to self-awareness. Now, I call this real Self-Awareness. And in this context, I consider the advices Tasha gave, as helpful practical exercises to make a better version of ourselves.
I’ve watched this a second time and really appreciate your video and your time spent to research this data. I will ask “what” instead of “why” and I now know that I am actually NOT self aware. Blessings 🙏
Likewise. Asking why has kept me feeling like a victim for to long.
Such a wonderful insight into self awareness.True focussing on solutions rather than problems builds on character and leads to continuous improvements
Love this it elevates my thoughts. Interesting to know this I often Love to ask questions or focus on the why knowing this gives me hope for the what question instead
May God bless her.🤍